"I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, then we can truly meet and enrich each other." Virginia Satir
Every couple experiences relationship challenges and conflict. Couples may seek therapy when struggling with a specific conflict or traumatic event, or after long periods of not feeling connected. Couples often arrive at therapy when they have become disconnected from one another and/or the relationship no longer feels like a safe, nurturing space.
I work with couples to improve communication, heal from infidelity and other betrayals, increase intimacy, and create healthy boundaries. Working together we will explore tools needed to rebuild intimacy or understand intimacy in a way that has never been experienced in the relationship before. I use tools from The Gottman's, Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy), NVC (Non-Violent Communication), among other techniques.
Currently I work with many couples and partners of people dealing with sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity issues. This may include compulsive porn use, infidelity, prostitution, or other sexual behavior outside the boundaries of the relationship. The first step is to create safety and to identify healthy boundaries for trauma to begin to heal. Slowly we will address the deep trauma, create new attachments, and explore creating a new, open and transparent relationship.